Internet dating has been around for several years now. Most of these sites are familiar, at least by name, to the singles crowd and probably 95% of single people have considered using them at one time or another.
Like many, I have mixed feelings.
On the one hand, they open up a world of dating opportunities with people you would never otherwise meet, but because of all of these choices now on the menu, it's even harder to make your final pick.
But there are two types of sites out there. There are basically dating glossaries, such as JDate or Chemistry.con, which provides you an exhaustive listing of every single person in their directory, searchable by guidelines you set. And then theres eHarmony, which provides matches for you based on a 250+ questionnaire and their own compatibility formula.
It's creepy to think that a computer can figure you out better than you can...but I am a firm believer that many people have trouble in relationships because they don't know what they should be looking for. They certainly know what they think they want and don't want, but that is often very different as to what is best for them in a long-term relationship.
So, I don't find it entirely surprising that eHarmony now claims that they are responsible for 2 percent of the marriages that occurred in America last year. Yes, that's over 120 marriages a day.
The entire industrialized world has changed over the last 20 years because of computers, so why shouldn't they work in the dating world?
Trust the machines, man!
-DaGirl
Friday, February 01, 2008
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I agree-- I even started a post about this myself. (Still in draft, though). It definitely makes more sense to approach a potential match with a plan, and from a focused point of view, than just shooting in the dark or based on past relationships.
I actually signed up for eHarmony a while ago, but my civil divorce want final yet, so they didnt let me join. That's changed, so they released the hold on my account. But I was still able to complete the personality profile and see the results, and the results were remarkable. It really does give you some insight into yourself. A brother of mine is getting married soon to a woman he found on eHarmony. Now, he's not really Orthodox, and I don't believe there are Orthodox women on eHarmony. But I'm going to complete the personality profile again and see what come up... I am curious.
FYI: The guy who wrote the article on internet dating, plugged he and his wife into eHarmony to see if they would get each other as matches:
http://tinyurl.com/2gtps7
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